I’m one of those people who is extremely interested in relationships.
I don’t think I understand how humans healthily interact over long periods of time.
In fact, for most of my life I have been in extremely stressful and chaotic relationships that end abruptly. I don’t know why things are always so intense before they immediately disappear into the ether. I’ve been trying to figure it out, so I’ve listened to a lot of relationship podcasts in the past few years. Two of the most important researchers in relationship psychology are the Gottmans. They provide an interesting framework that details the most important parts of a successful relationship. However, I’ve never heard them mention something that seems rather critical to me… Having similar indoor air temperature control preferences. If you ask me, living with somebody necessitates a similar indoor air temperature range. If you’re going to live cohesively with a single central heating, cooling, and air quality control system, you should probably have a similar outlook on energy expenditure and HVAC system repairs. I know that HVAC is not traditionally an important aspect of relationship health, but in my experience the thermostat has been pretty important. In several of my relationships we have had fights over the indoor air temperature control settings. There has been a continual back and forth disagreement about the ideal indoor air temperature range. We have fought over air filter changes and routine air duct cleanings. I might not be a relationship expert, but I think that these supposed gurus need to reconsider heating and cooling devices.